I have not gotten used to my oldest children living so far away. Recently, I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. Upon doing a little research, I stumbled upon some great articles. It is the hardest after a visit, every time, I am overcome with grief and sadness. After a while, it becomes less, yet then little things seem to trigger it.
During a meeting at an anxiety support group, I asked the psychiatrist if this was possible, and he told me it was. Grief can cause anxiety, so I am doing my best to work through it.
It is the hardest after a visit, every time, I am overcome with sadness. After a while, it becomes less, yet then little things seem to trigger it.
The other day I was sitting on a bus, and a girl about my daughter’s age was beside me. She had similar glasses and earphones in, and I started to tear up, thinking about how much I miss my own daughter.
It’s been months and the sadness still feels as big as it was the week before I knew she was leaving. Then a few months ago my son moved to live with them as well. It started the cycle of grief over again. I want to work through the trauma, grief and anxiety so I can be productive, happy and there for my children.
There are certain things I do intentionally to try to move on and keep my life going. Let’s look at what the experts say can help to heal. I won’t try to tell you I have any answers, I just want to share my journey with you, because life is to short to always feel sad.
1) Consult an expert or listen to their radio show http://davidkessler.org/ Thank you to http://www.healthcare-information-guide.com/coping-with-grief.html
2) Join a support group, thank you to this article
3) Be aware of the physical causes of grief for you and other children. This website has a fantastic guide.
4) Understanding how the adrenals work and the effect trauma and grief have on your body is important. This person uses several Bach flower remedies for trauma—Rescue Remedy and more. (I do find these very helpful myself)
5) Bobbi Parish http://www.thetraumarecoverycoach.com/#introduction
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I hope this article is helpful to you. Please share any resources that helped you cope with your own personal grief or to help someone you really care about. Please remember, everyone copes differently with grief, be kind to yourself and please, please don’t travel down this path alone!!
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