What is common amongst a person recovering from a heart attack, someone healing with PTSD, recovering alcoholics and an immigrant in a new country? This is a question I asked myself for a couple of years after having a heart attack and then creating a podcast sharing stories to inspire healing Mom’s to not only recover, to heal victoriously.
It turned out that the people listening to my interviews were Veterans overcoming PTSD, immigrants from around the world and recovering alcoholics. My mentor in the podcast industry, world-famous John Lee Dumas taught me to, “Niche down and choose an avatar.” His guidance is excellent and works for many people, you can see his and Kate’s post here: https://www.eofire.com/defining-your-avatar/
For a long time I thought I was doing a bad job, and it discouraged me. I kept trying to figure out how to help my, “Target Mom” that was healing from an illness or injury. Then I met Emiliya Zhivotovskaya from The Flourishing Centre and began learning about Positive psychology.
After learning the basic skills of Positive Psychology I felt equipped to really pour back into my podcast and started doing interviews after a long break. Yet, I was still stuck on this question?
Then I read Mat Hamm’s first article with Sucess Magazine. http://www.success.com/blog/3-simple-reminders-to-uncomplicate-your-business He advised businesses to “Focus on the problem, not the symptom.”
My symptom was that I had a writer’s block and was not sure where to find the people I wanted to help most. I was confused as to why the people who I was helping were not the people I was seeking to help. I felt inadequate to serve all the different types of people as I hadn’t experienced all of the things they had.
The problem was that I was looking at it too closely. I had not realized that all of these groups of people experience similar difficulties and challenges. My belief in myself was based on my personal experience and not my trust in The Lord to bring the people in my life and with his help guide them right. I needed to re-evaluate the group of people who I wanted to help and open it up to a much larger area.
So, what do all these people have in common?
- They got to the point in life that they knew it would never be the same again.
- They face fear, guilt, sometimes shame, and a good chance the enemy will try to get in and make them believe they will never get through.
- They have a chance to embrace change, have courage, be open-minded and learn from this is possible. They can use this opportunity to ask God what he has planned for them and re-evaluate their direction in life.
Friendship … is born at the moment when one man says to another “what! You too? I thought that no one but myself . . .
CS Lewis, The Four Loves
So just what might someone who has had a heart attack, suffered a traumatic event and developed PTSD, immigrated to a new place all alone or quit drinking for the first time be seeking?
- A person that can listen, without giving advice, judging or criticizing!
- A Community of Supporters.
- Help with finances
- To master new skills
- To let go of old beliefs and embrace new ones
- In some cases a Psychologist, Therapist, Mentor or Coach
What might they be feeling?
Anger, Fear, Uncertainty, Guilt, Shame, Excitement, Hope, Gratitude.
You may say how opposite are these feelings, how can that be? Many of our guests have felt more than one feeling moving through their own journey. One can be in great physical pain while being grateful they are still alive. Others can feel anger for loosing a part of them while feeling hope that something new will spring from the unfortunate situation.
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every day is a second chance to:
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