Talking with another Mom that is off work due to sickness made me realize, I am not alone in asking, “where did my friends go?”
I felt relief when I had first talked to my psychologist about this. She told me that it is typical to only keep one or two friends with you through transitions. That means the friends I made running, at work and being a hockey mom have long dwindled away and there are a very few that are still in my life from my past.
The first year that I was sick, I was not able to go very far due to sickness, so I started a blog and podcast interviewing people who had healed from sickness, accidents and trauma.
Talking to these people gave me hope and inspired me to continue to see doctor after doctor and keep on attending physio and therapy. Had I not done that I may have curled up in a little ball and sunk into a deep depression.
I found it very difficult to reach out to new friends when I wasn’t able to walk very far, was very tired and didn’t have very much money to go out with.
Many of my old friends were too busy to visit or just too awkward and didn’t know what to say or do. Soon I found most of them disappeared.
Once I found the right doctor and medication for my chest pain, my health began to improve. I started going to mom groups, to church as well as volunteering in my community where I was needed.
Slowly, I made new friends and I found the relationships to be even stronger. I developed an appreciation for a good friend even more than I ever have before. Doing little things to show my appreciation is exciting and I love the opportunity to be able to do that now.
Visiting others in this hospital or going through sickness has become an important part of giving back for me. I will always remember those that were there for me. One of my best memories was a coach on facebook that messaged me and offered some free coaching. In return she asked I gave my time to someone else in need.
She may have changed my life, and I bet she doesn’t even know. She helped me to keep focused on the good I could do, appreciate I was still alive and not to dwell in what could have been!!
We all have that power to do that for someone else. There is almost always someone in need and we may not even realize it!!
If you find yourself feeling alone, I hope you will reach out and join our facebook community, google+ group or like our facebook page. There is a good chance your community has a facebook page, group or community and it can be a good way to begin to make new connections!!