We left for Sunday School this morning and I gave my son a handful of change to put in the offering can. Later that night we returned for prayer night and when I picked him up from the daycare, I found the coins all over the floor. I picked them all up and asked him why he hadn’t put the money in the offering can. I told him he could give it to our pastor and we went upstairs to find him.
When we found the pastor talking with a few others, I told my son he could go on over. He hesitated and handed him one coin, 10 cents, out of his hand full of change. Our pastor asked him how much he had in his hand and my son pulled it back looking concerned. Pastor Joel told him not to worry and counted out his money, he told him that many adults struggle with giving money and he wasn’t alone.
He told my son that since he had 70 cents, donating 10 cents was more than 10% and thanked him. He said he would put it in an envelope and ensure it went to missions.
My son was happy and put the money in his pocket to buy a toy truck. I learned a lesson in parenting and giving.
All this time I was giving him change to put in the offering can and missed the whole point. The point is not to make sure your kids have money to put in the offering can it is to teach them to give out of their heart. To teach them how to tithe is more valuable than just handing them money.
That night I began giving him a weekly amount of money and gave him a piggy bank as well as a jar for his tithing money. He had the heart to help and wanted to buy two cars, one for himself and one to give away. His resistance was that he perceived I was asking him to give all the money.
Last year I decided to begin tithing 10% of my money. It took me a while to figure out what that looked like and had many questions such as: do I give net or gross? Do I give money I receive from child support or child tax or income only?
One of my deepest fears since quitting my job has been that I would not have enough income to feed my family and provide shelter for them.
It was a dark year for finances yet my best year for my happiness and mental health.
First, I would like to tell you why I committed to tithing for one year.
Our Pastor, Barry Buzza, teaches passionately from the bible and I attended one of his classes called Beta. He explained to us that tithing is giving 10% of everything we are given by God, back to him.
Zig Ziglar and Dave Ramsey wrote of their belief of tithing and many others that I have come to respect in the last couple of years do as well.
The first nine months of the year I had a job and found it less challenging to give. I had set up a budget and gave 10% first, then paid bills, groceries and the rest. It was not the right job for me, and when I couldn’t afford to stay any longer, I made the difficult decision to quit.
Most of the people around me thought I was made a bad choice and said that I would not be approved for Unemployment Insurance.
I was sure that I made the right decision as I had prayed about it a lot and had found peace about it. This is when the tithing test came in.
It was almost two months before a decision was made, and I was approved. When I received my first payment, and the amount I tithed was enough for food for two weeks.
I was so afraid that I wouldn’t find a good job in time and wanted to hold on to every nickel I had. (Canada did away with the penny a while ago 🙂
The commitment I made was stronger than my fear, I wish I could say it went away, but it was there in the background whispering, “what if you starve? Why give the money?” and “no one will know?”
I decided to keep on tithing and gave from my heart for the rest of the year. Some pretty amazing things happened.
The first was that we found peace in our home. For those of you that don’t know my story, I will briefly mention that just over a year ago my entire family was broken and I found myself filled with sadness.
First, I found peace and happiness and then shortly after it became peaceful in our home. This is the year I became a Granny, what a blessing that a baby brings to a home.
Second, the amount of income I received while on EI was more than that of what I was making in my job. That is a first for me and to add to the miracle, I am eligible to receive pay for an entire year while I start my own business.
My business brings me joy and allows me to do the work I am meant to do. I won a scholarship from, The Flourishing Centre to pay for nearly half the expense and I completed my Life Coaching Certification.
I found the answer to the question I had been seeking for over three years, Can we think and heal?
Last but not least, I found the money I need to start-up my business. What a miracle!
It is with praise and thanksgiving to God that I look back on the year and look forward to another year of tithing. The spiritual gratitude is greater than the dollar value I received. If I were to add it up, I would estimate that $5, 500 came to me in scholarships, help at Christmas, and the difference I made on EI, not paying the high costs of insurance and gas for my job. I tithed 10% which was about $3,000.
No one can say for sure if I would have received all these blessings if I had not tithed. For a first year experiment, I feel it was a fruitful year. I will not only continue to tithe myself, but I will also encourage my children to give from their heart and tithe as well.
Here is Pastor Barry’s article on tithing. Should you consider giving it a try you may find this answers your questions about it. If you have any for me feel free to reach out or share this article with those you love.
30And all the tithe of the land, whether of the seed of the land, or of the fruit of the tree, is the Lord’s: it is holy unto the Lord.
Thank you to Pastor Barry at http://northsidechurch.ca for his time to answer my many questions over the year and allowing me to share his writing and work.
Thank you for reading, I pray you have a blessed week.
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