A couple of books I have read suggest writing your obituary and then taking an honest look at it. This will help you to see if you have been living a life with the values and accomplishments that you would like to.
When I was in the hospital last year, I had this opportunity. It was sure sad to see that I had fallen into a rut and was not even close to achieving any of the things that mattered to me.
It went something like this:
Gina was a very hard-working mother of three. She focused so hard on making a living, that she rarely had time to spend with her children. Since she began work before 5 am, she didn’t really have time to make friends. Most of the people attending her funeral will be co-workers or a few family members.
She loved her children so much, that she spent every waking moment trying to make sure they had everything they needed. She was not emotionally available because she had little time to sleep or take care of her own needs.
Gina had many intentions, such as spending quality time with her children, catching up on sleep, reading a good book, helping out in the community when the day came she had time to. She had hoped to become self-employed and earn a living doing meaningful work she enjoyed.
Since Gina had been trying to work through the abuse in her life, she had a very hard time maintaining relationships with her family. So some of the family won’t be here because they are not a part of her life.
This was enough for me to realize that life had not worked out in the way I had wanted and that it was controlling me. I had given up the driver seat to my own life and I was very alone.
I realized my best intentions don’t matter if they are unfilled. Spending time with my children wasn’t meaningful to them if I wasn’t emotionally available. I couldn’t be emotionally available if I continued to live this way.
Something had to change, for me it was a big scare, seeing that I could have left the world like this, and my children would have remembered me as a mom that was always busy and stressed out.
I AM SO GRATEFUL that I was given a second chance. My hope by sharing this is that you don’t have to nearly die to give yourself the opportunity to assess where you are in life.
So go ahead, take a few minutes and write your own obituary. See if you would be satisfied with what you have accomplished if you were to leave this world tomorrow.
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